full time dad, stay at home dad

I’m not sure if many of you knew this but I’m a full time working mom while Mr. Pepper is the primary caretaker for our daughter. This is just what works for our family. Mr. Pepper is working towards becoming a certified flight instructor and will eventually return to work, but with the cost of childcare it makes much more sense for me to currently work full time

As much as I’d love to be able to stay home and play all day it’s a sacrifice that must be made for the future of our family. One day it will all pay off.


The silver lining to this is the growing bond between Mr. Pepper and Bridget.

It is so true that moms instantly bond with their newborn, how could they not we’ve had them with us for the last 9+ months. The bond between a father and newborn can be a little harder to foster, especially in the beginning when baby depends on mom for most of its basic needs.

I had a pretty rough delivery, the epidural never wore off from my left leg. My doctor believes it was due to pushing for so long that it caused some slight nerve damage and called it “the trauma of labor”
It was pretty devastating not being able to walk around right after delivery, I was confined to my bed and could only hold my baby while sitting down.

Anyone a Harry Potter fan? Remember the part where Professor Lockhart vanishes away Harry’s arm bones? That’s exactly what my left leg felt like. I WAS USELESS.

All I could feel was a pins and needles sensation. It eventually resolved about 6 weeks later, I did a lot of stretching to retain that muscle tone as I had severe foot drop.

Anyway, I digress….from the moment Bridget was born Mr. Pepper just stepped right in, he changed her first diaper, was completely involved in her first bath and honestly when we got home he did 95% of the work because I did not trust myself to walk around with my new baby.

Trust me those first days were difficult, I felt like I was failing as a mother because I couldn’t even sway her to sleep, add on top of that my breastfeeding issues and it would make even the strongest woman break down in tears.

I work 3-12 hour shifts a week and being gone for so long is difficult but I take comfort in knowing that my husband is the one raising our child. I get texts and snapchats throughout the day and I don’t feel as though I’m missing out on too much. They have this incredible bond, all he has to do is look at her and she breaks into a toothy grin. She is such a daddy’s girl.

 

father daughter portrait

Seeing them have this special bond is so heartwarming it makes me want to cry because it is so sweet. I always knew he’d be a good dad, I just didn’t expect to see him want to be so involved in her care.

Cheers,

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